We are taught to focus on what we put in our bodies, and how we move our bodies, but are we overlooking the most important factor? How we talk to ourselves is the cornerstone of a truly happy and healthy lifestyle.
With diet and exercise, we are caring for our physical bodies but none of that is possible without first taking care of our mental, and emotional self.
It is my mission to help my clients improve the way they speak to, and think about themselves. There should never be any pre-conditions to loving oneself.
The first step is to reflect on how you talk to yourself. Most of us are incredibly harsh with ourselves. Unfairly harsh, in fact! Would you speak to your best friend the way you speak to yourself? Probably not. So why are you saying it to yourself?
Begin listening and being aware of the conversations you have in your own head. Even though we may not realise it, the things we say to ourselves has a huge effect on our self-confidence. Once you have tuned into your inner dialogue, you can begin practicing a more positive conversation. For some, positive self-talk is difficult. Don’t expect things to change overnight, but by being mindful, being aware, and being proactive about changing the self-talk we have, we can absolutely shift our perspectives into a more positive direction.
When you are faced with a new challenge, what is your initial reaction? Do you automatically tell yourself, “I can’t do this” or “this is a waste of time”? If you tell yourself that you’re going to fail, guess what’s likely to happen? You’re probably going to fail. You may not jump for joy each time you’re faced with a new challenge, at least tell yourself you’re going to give it your absolute best shot, and do that. That way, even if you don’t do as well as you’d hoped, you know that you gave it your best and you are much less likely to be upset with yourself.
One of the most important parts of transitioning to positive self-talk is realising that you are capable of getting where you want to go, even if it means it will take some work.
Beating yourself up mentally does nothing to get you any closer to your goals, in fact, it separates you even further. How do you deal with your struggles? Struggles are not failures, they’re lessons. Every single struggle should be looked at as an opportunity to learn. What can you work on avoiding or learn how to handle better the next time? The beautiful thing about life is that it is always changing.
Good times and tough times are bound to keep coming our way. When it comes to the tougher times, we have to not let them knock us down for too long. Remember to talk to yourself as if you are your own best friend! This is the beginning of you becoming your own motivator.
When you get those wins, cheer even louder. When you struggle or falter, keep cheering but remember to look at what you could improve on to win the next day.
You deserve to be your own biggest fan. If you aren’t, no matter how much anyone else cheers you on, not much will change until YOU want it to.
That negative little voice in our head can be powerful.
Be even louder than that voices until your voice is the most powerful voice of them all.